Plenty of Fish

The words that come to mind are "deluded nasty females" there is not one decent woman on here. Now granted I just resigned up after being on P. O. F many, many years ago. Boy! Has this site changed and not for the good. First of the site "dictates" who I can search for? Seriously I have never had a website tell me what I could and couldn't do?

I'm 46 and yeah I want to date someone younger, so what? Guess what! That's my right. I don't want to date women my age because Plenty of Fish are all dried up and tied up. And guess what I still want to have kids. I don't want your kids. And that's another thing ladies your "delusional" in thinking any self-respecting guy. I am going to want to come after your kids? I dated a woman and she thought, I wanted to come after her kids and her horses. Lol! I have read a lot of these reviews "praising" this site. And I am thinking are you "high" or something. I read one review saying "that we were taking out or rejection out on this site?!

I am going to post a few "highlights" from actual ad's on the site. (giggles_n_laffs) wrote this on her profile I am not making this up at all? That's why Included her handle in this "**** I'm very allergic to cats, dumb******, and A-holes****... so, don't be a cat, dumbass or A-hole;)
I've had friends describe POF as the "trailer park and bottom of the barrel" of dating sites... " And I am just shaking my head in disbelief?

Here is another one (Miss_Piggy_Peahead) I mean you want to talk about delusional lol! "I put I am looking for friends this does not mean friends with benefits, you dumbasses. Every guy on here, even the ones that look like Bill Gates, think they are a player and it makes my friends and I laugh our asses off." and this is pretty much every ad on here?! I like a "dumb*** decided to be completely 100% honest on my profile, I kid you not. And I have only gotten maybe 3 responses. Two form obvious scammers because I hadn't even completed my profile yet?

And one cute girl I messaged that goes by the handle (Royalty8585) but extremely stuck up. And she's single and I am supposed to feel sorry for her? She was previously married so that's a strike against her.

This site will put you off of dating forever. Sure I may have mental handicap but guess what I have a 165 IQ. And that definitely makes me smarter than 99.9% of the people on there. LoL!

So here are the Pro's and Con's of, Plenty of Fish

Pro: It's free sort of you get what you don't pay for.

Cons: Pretty Much Everything
The women are deluded nasty females.
You have to give out your income? That is a major "red flag"
You can't "delete" your profile.
If you message anyone, they won't message you back. They will, however, "look" at your profile a lot.
The site will "dictate" who you can look at and search.

I know this is probably more of a rant, then an actual review. And I know most of it was directed at the people on there. But guess what it's very important to look at the site as a whole. Because these are the kinds of people you're going to encounter on Plenty Of Fish. And if you can at least warn someone ahead of time, well that's a good thing, right? Peace!

Hi,

Well were do I start I have been on pof bought 6-7 months and am totally in shock! This site is feral as, it's like a big online brothel!
The men on here are full of $#*!! Not good looking, old worn looking bitter aggressive men towards woman, it's almost like Plenty of Fish hate woman but are on a site looking for woman. I met a few guys and don't like any of them because one: they are not freindly, not respectful, not good looking but think they are hot as, like they think they are gods gift to woman pfffftt
They like in there profiles: either put up one photo, and it's either not good quality, or blurred, or wearing hats and sunglasses you can't even see what they look like! Then you ask for more photos and they reply oh sorry I don't have any more! Red flags! Or they ask for your number then start sending more pics there, then nude pics blah blah blah discusting. Second: they always put old photos up from 10 years ago, when they were fitter, younger, better looking that's rubbish! Then they never show you any recent photos of them. They lie about there age they may state they are 34,33 years old then you meet them they look about 40 years old! Then you are on a date with such a old man lol. They also lie about there smoking, drug, drinking habits! The ones I've met lied they are much older looking, skinnier than there photos, they do smoke cigarettes, and drink heavily, and are drug addicts. Oh and also they write " looking for a relationship" lies again, they only want SEX, and that's it! No more, usually they are married and have girlfreinds and are looking for sex on the side so BEWARE! Yep im done that site is shocking! Oh and some of them that you meet, they phone stalk you after, like I had 3-4 guys stalk me via facebook, e, ail, phone from this site obviously because they ain't all there in the head clearly. They calling me from private numbers and not speaking on the end of the phone, but playing games yes I guess so, calling from different mobile phones and trying to chat to me but pretending to be someone else wtf! And all over my facebook liking everything, chatting and adding Freinds of mine they don't even know, stealing my photos from my facebook and keeping them wtf!. Oh and they seem to not like meeting in PUBLIC places! This site is for mentally insane, crazy, sex freak men it is off putting, sorry but never again, go out in the real world and meet people face to face much safer. This site pof is bad bad jam! I have even tried to email the pof people about abusive men on here and they don't seem to do nothing about it either pathetic. I think this site pof should be ahut down for good and every other dating site out there to more protect girls and women from predators, because this is definitely a number one hot spot for abusers, manipulators low life's, scumbags, aggressive angry violent men, that seem to take out there bitterness and hatred on women here, sex predators, sex users all those types, narcissists, pessimists all the same really.

I'm a paid subscriber on POF and as a very handsome man bewildered that NOT ONE woman has taken the time to simply read my well constructed honest profile. Plenty of Fish simply press a button if they find you attractive. This one aspect alone is very very strange.

When contacting the ladies (where there is mutual attraction), I take the time to craft a humorous, intelligent, original first message. No cookie cutter BS. A message that truly shows I'm sincere and read their full profile. Proofread for typos and hit send. Amazingly I've received NOT ONE reply! Not even a simple thank you. I get twenty (so & so wants to meet you) per/day.

I'll go back to Zoosk where I had much more action with sincere woman, not cupids. This site is a true joke. For crying out loud, I'm reaching out to women 43 to 52 years of age who paint themselves out to be evolved and intelligent. Sad that most profiles speak a good game yet there's not been one sincere woman in the whole bunch.

I'm a rare honest, intelligent, gift of a man with great life experience and good looks to boot. I'm monogamous in relationship and everything these women say they're looking for. So much for seeing what's standing right in front of you ladies. Stop acting like kids in a candy store. Wake the F up and stop playing games for it's not attractive.

User profile: (Bibittybob) Which I'm sure will now be problematic after writing this review however it is well worth it just to get my true feelings out there to the public.

PS: Don't be fooled by Mollie G's (or any review giving props to the free site) 5 star review as whomever this person is it's a phoney review. She states she met her soulmate here (going out on many dates) however without communication how could this possibly be true using the site as a Free service? Isn't communication essential just in order to even meet up let alone build the necessary trust to even wish to do this... the FREE site makes this an impossibility.

In order to read any reply to any messages you would have to be a PAID subscriber. The Free service does not allow one to reply to anyone? Don't bother to reply Mollie G cause I'm a straight up NYer living in the big city my whole life. I can smell a bad Fish a mile away and already know your POF's own Dept. running BS interference.

This pertains to any of the reviews stating they use the Free service and love it. The free service is made to frustrate the hell out of you till you pay to join.

After an absence of over a year I decided to try POF one more time. Having used POF over the years I fully understood what to expect and now that I've come back nothing has changed for the better.
As a male I can only speak from a male's perspective but I believe my experience applies to females as well.

To begin, don't believe that this site is "free" as Plenty of Fish claim. There is nothing free about it.
After signing up and creating my account, which included posting a few photos, I understood that if I am going to contact women I will need to purchase credits in order to send emails. Up until now you could purchase "tokens". They offered 1, 5, 10. The more you purchased the more options were available to you. I usually only purchased 1 in order to send messages. As of today POF has inserted additional membership packages which cost much more. You are now able to pay $11.50/month (8 month plan), $14.41/month (4 month plan), $20.00/month (2 month plan). POF proudly boasts that these payment plans offer you a long list of additional bonuses such as: "you can see whether your email was read or deleted", "highlight your profile so it stands out", and my favorite, "This upgrade more than doubles your chances of meeting someone". Tell me, what if no women reply to your emails? Now you have double the chance of meeting the same women.

Now, my time and experience on POF has demonstrated all of the following.
1. Didn't I see your photos somewhere else?
Many of the profiles on the women's side are fake. How do I know this. If I'm suspicious of a photo I will copy it and send it to "google image search". I immediately discover that the photo/s were pulled of a porn site and posted on the profile. This proves that that there is no security or validation system on POF.

2. Why are you hiding?
Many profiles do not show the woman's face. A large percentage of women simply post photos of sunsets, their pets, wilderness scenes or even their shoes. Why? This is a dating site, not a shopping catalog. POF offers a "report member" option but they refuse to deal with photo issues. Clearly, not posting photos of yourself is acceptable with POF. If anything, they encourage it by not dealing with the issue.

3. Are you there?
Most women will not reply to your messages. They claim (in their profiles) the following:
"if I don't reply to your message it's because I don't feel we are a match".
Hmm, very classy approach. Considering that men have to pay to use this site you would consider that the decent thing to do would be to reply with a simple, "thank you but no thank you". Not on POF. Most emails you send will not be replied to. In fact, instead of taking a moment to reply to your message the women will sooner block you from contacting them again. How do I know they block you? It's very easy to discover. All you need to do is send a second note to her and as soon as you press "send" a message pops up, "this member has blocked you from contacting her. Please try somebody else." Nice, huh?

4. Hey, where did you go?
Now that you paid to use the site and send messages you will quickly discover that many women have put up a blocker which prevents you from contacting them UNLESS you upgrade to the next package. What package? The monthly subscription I told you about at the beginning. Keep in mind, most women don't reply to begin with but now POF is trying to force you to upgrade (spend more money) in order to get ignored even more and at a higher monthly fee. Very honest site, huh?

5. Who are you?
At the top of the page you have all of your options such as, "meet me", "search", "my matches" etc. There is an option titled "viewed me". If you click on this option you will see a long list of women who have viewed your profile, but, the profiles and photos are all blurred out. Why? If you want to see who the women are who viewed you then you must, get ready for it, PAY an additional fee. Wow, what a surprise. You can now spend money to view the profile of a woman who didn't have any interest in contacting you to begin with. I say; why not and go for it. It's just money.

6. I have a secret admirer?
Now that I have paid my full $2.25 membership fee I am a full member and can send emails to women. On a regular basis I receive the notification: "this woman is interested in meeting you". Ooh, somebody is interested in me! Yeah, sure she is. Here is where the lies and scams come into full light. I will be notified that a "woman is interested in meeting you". Ok, if she's so interested in meeting me then why won't she send me an email? Why do I need to contact her instead?
Based on what I've read online so far, women get to join for free and use POF for free so if that is true then why doesn't she simply send me an email? I suppose because it's meant for me to pay an additional fee and in return I still won't hear back from her. Could it be that POF is sending these fake notices and trying to get me excited enough to spend more money for something that isn't real? Do you think that may be what they are doing here?

7. I'm sorry I can't compliment you.
Be very careful about wanting to compliment women on this site. Even if you take the time to write something well thought out and respectful you can still end up getting your account deleted if the woman considers your compliment to be offensive. In fact, don't bother commenting on anything apart from your interest in chatting. Telling a woman she looks nice or has a very attractive figure may get you banned within 10 minutes. It should be noted that many women post rather provocative photos of themselves with the focus being on chest shots. What do you think she's advertising with photos of that nature? Play it safe and say NOTHING.

8. So, how much do you earn per year sweetie?
Many women are clearly just digging for money. They describe their ideal man as being:
-well established (rich)
-men who enjoy to travel (in other words, the man pays to take the woman on a vacation)
-drives a nice car
-has a house (don't even think of telling her you rent an apartment or you'll be tossed like an empty soda can)
-men must look like they belong in a high fashion magazine (many women make it clear that you need to be a perfect 10 if she is to meet you or even reply to your email)
Ironically, many of these same women look like they fell out of the ugly tree and hit every branch on the way down. In fact the following happened to me. I connected with a woman from POF and met for a drink. I thought she was very attractive and wanted to spend more time with her. I quickly learned that she didn't have the same interest in me because I was renting an apartment instead of being an owner of a house. She told me that she wants to meet a man who earns a six figure income instead of being with a man who earns an hourly wage. The insulting part was when I discovered that she was living in the basement of her mothers house with her two sons. She clearly didn't want a man for a meaningful relationship but rather a rich man who would "rescue" her from her minimum wage job and give her a house and all the perks that went with it. Do you think she was a gold digger? I certainly thought so but then again, I could be wrong.

9. I have very high standards.
Many women will clearly write, "I am highly selective in who I want to meet". I've seen the same women on this site over the years which tells me two things.
1. This particular woman has serious personality issues.
2. The photos and profile are fake.
You get to choose which one you feel applies to the given profile. I keep asking myself, how is it that such an attractive woman is still single after over 10 years and now she's so depressed (according to her profile) that she can't meet a great guy. Hmm, what could be the problem here? Could it be that she's unpleasant, rude, arrogant, self centered, egotistical, superficial, or, could it be that her profile is a complete fake? Your guess is as good as mine. Here is a hint. Most women expect the man to look like he stepped out of a fashion magazine before she replies to you. On the flip side, most of the women look like Cinderellas step sisters.

10. Can you lend me $5000. 00 please?
I receive messages from women on a regular basis who live outside of the country and each time the ONLY message is, "hey". When this happens I know that the profile is a scam for money. The person on the other side initiates a conversation which instantly moves to her being in need of cash. My reply to this? I block her.

11. You live where?
Be very alert when you receive a letter from a woman. I always look at the city she claims to live in. Sometimes the city is one I've never heard of and I need to google it to find out where it is. Many times it's some tiny remote community in northern Canada that can only be accessible by plane. At this point I start a conversation just to see how far the person will go in convincing me that they are a legitimate woman. I'll ask them how far they live from the beach and they will say "20 minute car drive to the coast". Yeah, ok. Bye.

12. How old is your photo?
There are many very old profile photos. How do I know this? Some 10 years ago POF placed a watermark on every photo that was posted on their site. The watermark stated "plenty of fish". They ended this practice at least 10 years ago and many of those photos are still being used on profiles so you can only imagine that the woman in the profile is at least ten years older than what you see. Remember, this site has been around for 17 years so the photos with that watermark can be that old as well.

13. My camera doesn't work.
Yeah, many women do not post photos of themselves. Why not? They claim that looks don't mean anything and that they are suspicious of men who want to see their photos. They will tell you that if a man must see a photo of a woman then he's just a phony looking to play games. However, the first thing they will do is click on the man's profile to look at his photos. Why is that? This is how they decide who they want to talk to. If the man can't see her she feels she is in complete control over the situation. What legitimate dating site encourages women to NOT post a photos of themselves? This is just another red flag warning you to avoid POF.
True story. About two years ago I ran across a profile of a woman that I wanted to contact. She replied back to me and we started chatting. I asked her where she was when her photos were taken and her reply to me was unexpected. She told me, "those photos are not of me. I found some photos of a woman who looks like me so I posted them instead. I wanted to keep my identity private." What?

14. Thank you, come again.
Once you purchase credits you are able to send emails but be aware, you are limited to how many emails you can send per day. POF does not inform you of this catch until you are subscribed. Once you send the limit that they permit you are now forced to wait 24 hours before you can start sending again, UNLESS (guess what you need to do?) yeah, purchase an upgraded membership package which of course is going to cost you a monthly fee.
This is not a fair system. If anything, they have structured it to suck as much money out of your pocket as possible. Would I call POF an ethical site? No I wouldn't. This is not a dating site geared to helping you meet somebody, rather, it's a site designed to maximize profits for the company and in return maximize the stress levels for you.

15. The Russians are coming.
Guys beware of the Russian girls. Most of the Russian women are looking to move to the West and they will do anything in their power to get a man to help them. They will tell you how wonderful you are, or, how close she feels to you from your correspondences. Watch out! They are trying to get you to sponsor them and once they arrive they will use you up and toss you away as soon as they get what they want. Don't become another victim. This also applies to Russian woman who have only been here for short time. They come across as very demanding and they expect you to play by their rules or you're gone. Do yourself a huge favor, stay away from them. It's not worth the suffering.

16. Upgrade to contact me boys.
Some women's profiles are restricted to men who upgrade to a monthly membership. Why? I have no idea. I keep asking myself, "why would a woman insist on the man upgrading his membership in order to contact her? How does that benefit her?". It makes no sense at all. The only reason I can think of is that the profile is fake. What's the difference between having a basic membership compared to a monthly subscription? None. Either way you are still sending her a letter and hoping for a reply. I have already found numerous profiles using the same photos. If there are multiple profiles using the same photos, well, common sense tells you these are fake profiles which are only being used to lure men into the site so they can pay to contact these women.

17. Your political views offend me.
Yeah, politics has become a very touchy issue. Some women use politics as the key to meeting her. Look, I'm not a fan of politicians so that means I don't support anybody in particular. I can say I'm neutral on the issue. With that being said, most of the women are liberals and if your views challenge hers then you're immediately blocked. If you get into a disagreement on politics then the site itself tends to ban you citing, "your opinions or comments were unacceptable and violated our terms of use." Really? POF will ban you because your political views made a woman cry? I thought this was a dating site, not a political forum.

18. We're sorry, the number you have reached is not in service.
My absolute favorite feature is, "messaging disabled". Yes, women can now block men from sending emails to her. Why? Again, I have no idea. Their profile remains visible and free to view but you cannot send her an email. My question is this. If she doesn't want men contacting her (for whatever reason she may have) then why doesn't POF automatically hide her profile until she permits emails again?
As a PAYING member, I expect to be able to send messages to the women I see on this site. Wouldn't you? What is the purpose of leaving your profile up for all to see but not allowing men to contact you? That's like going to the grocery store where all the food is on display BUT you are not permitted to buy anything. Where is the logic in that?

This is just a short list of my personal experience with POF and as a result I do not recommend it to anybody. Have I met any women from this site? Yes I have but the majority were not worth the time or effort. Most of the time I have been stood up and lied to. I will end up driving for almost an hour only to find out she chose not to show up and failed to call or text me to inform me about her change of mind.
If anything, this site is just about scamming money from you and not much else. You're better off going to the book store and trying to meet a woman there. There used to be a time where dating sites were focused on helping you meet somebody. Today, they are all about profits and nothing else.

Update: As of Sept 2020.
I stopped by POF to glance over their main page and to see if anything may have changed over the months. To my surprise they are having a special promotion. There is a huge special going on now where you can join and send letters to women for just. 21 cents. Yes,. 21 cents. I thought to myself "you can't give up this deal" so I joined just to see what has changed.
To my surprise, very little. POF has changed its format in how they present profiles. In other words, they moved the photos around slightly and polished up the visuals but not much else. I started to look over the profiles and quickly discovered how many fake profiles exist now. How was I able to determine they were fake? Many of the profiles have only one photo of the woman and those photos are ALL from the chest up. These same women look no older than 25 yet the age stated is on average 43. Also noted were the profile descriptions of the women that don't say very much about themselves apart from, "I'm looking for a nice guy" or, "contact me". Just for kicks I sent one of them a message asking if she'd like to stop by and chat? I received a reply two days later insisting that I send her my cell # so she can "get to know you better". Yeah, sure.
Other profiles of extremely young looking 40ish women sound like they were written by Mark Twain. The profiles are just unbelievable. Here is an example of one.
"I am searching for a kind hearted man who endeavors to nurture a relationship. I become excited thinking about the adventures that await me in the future. I enjoy thinking about exotic trips to Somalia and the far east where I can experience the great wonders of this magnificent world and then pen my experiences each evening as I admire the love of my life standing by the window glancing towards me with the setting sun on the horizon..." Really? Who talks that way?
It's almost nauseating to read these profiles.
POF has gone one step further to manipulate their site and added countless fake profiles to lure people into throwing their money away. If I was asked how many fake profile would I guess existed from what I have noticed so far, I would easily say 1/3.
As before, please stay away. It's not worth it.

Where do I start? This is going to be a long review so please don't waste your time reading it if you havn't got more than 5 minutes. Met four lads off the site & one off Tinder. I know this isn't about Tinder but I'm going to speak of all my online dating experiences.

I decided to join after splitting with my absolute gent of a boyfriend, things just fizzled out but he is a wonderful person & we are best friends since the break up so I do have faith in the male sex! I'm a 26 year old female & maybe I'm too normal, I don't play mind games, I'm generous, there's literally nothing complicated about me.

Here are my experiences.

Subject 1 - POF 2014

Met this 35 year old for the first time in a shopping centre, he wasn't as good looking as his photo depicted on the site but none the less there was a slight attraction there. We walked around aimlessly like a pair of idiots until I eventually suggested we could get a tea or coffee. He replies "I don't drink tea or coffee." That's grand except it's hard to talk when you're just walking around! After about 20 mins I just said I'd get a cup of tea if he didn't mind just so we could sit somewhere. I queued up & he hovered in the background & just as I'm about to purchase my tea he calls "Actually I'll have a bottle of water." Grand, so we sat down and chatted. I noticed he had a tooth missing on one side & a slight bit of rotting, it's lousy & judgemental I know but dental care is so affordable these days with pay monthly options & I actually have braces myself there's really no excuse. That may sound cruel but it's how it was. Chatted for a while, got on well enough, he walked me to my car, got in for a while, shifted which was surprisingly nice at the time but my God now it makes me feel sick. Actually gagging abit now. Then we both parted.
Next date, not sure how long after but we were texting regularly. Went to the cinema, we met half way for this so it was convenient for the two of us. Got in the queue & he stands back when we get to the counter. I order us two tickets then ask did he want anything to eat or drink, he didn't seem pushed so I said that I was getting some then he decided to get popcorn & a drink. No attempt to even go halves with me. Oh I actually forgot, we met at around 4:30pm & when we got there we realised the the film wasn't on until around 6pm. Instead of actually doing something to pass the time we sat in his car (no heating on) & basically just shifted. Anyway we're in the cinema & I made sure to sit on the side where his teeth were grand so I fancied him. I sound ridiculous. Film was good, had another shift, headed home. $#*!ed to my sis for ages about him being kind of tight, she said not to bother with him again. Ha.
Third date, he drove down my way, had jiggy jiggy, made sure to always lay on the side with the good teeth. Went for a Chinese take away, thinking surely he'll cover this, it was barely over a tener for our orders. I'm at the counter, ooh I feel his presence as the cashier gives us the price of the bill, I have my purse in hand about to pay... he elbows me slightly, suggesting "Wait there my lady, I have this covered." He didn't say this but the nudge thing meant this of course. He slides over a fiver with his index finger from his side of the counter to mine. Oh the insult. "It's grand" I said "I'll get it." "No" he says, "I insist." WHAT THE ACTUAL $#*!!
We get home, I eat my food away from him and like a slob because let's face it, I'm not trying to impress anyone any more. More jiggy jiggy probably because I'm a bit of a bloke when it comes to that, I really bloody enjoy it but it doesn't mean all that much to me at the same time. Oh yeah I think he had possibly started farting at this point, Jesus Plenty of Fish were loud but they didn't stink otherwise I think that'd be the final straw.
I think this is "date number 4" it's all a bit jumbled. Yeah I'm an idiot. I drove over his way. We arranged to meet at around 2, spend the day together & go for dinner. I'm thinking I am finally going to get something covered by this fella, it's worth staunching out for. Get to his, jiggy jiggy, it took me over 2 hours to get to his due to my shocking inability to take the right turn off even though my good friend Sat Nav told me to. Anyway yeah, I hadn't eaten due to rushing around making myself look amazing (ha) then I'm thinking sure we're getting dinner so it's nice to be hungry for it. Well back to what happened, like I said, jiggy jiggy because we shifted when I got to his which leads to that. We fall asleep for a bit, jiggy again. Hours passed, I'm parched so asked for a drink, prob jig again, can't remember. It's nearly 8pm at this stage, I've been there for like 5+ hours. No sign of us heading out for dinner. Then he eventually goes "Well, things didn't really turn out the way we planned!" Making a joke of it, & I laugh and go something like yeah! But still thinking it's only bloody 8 o'clock, you can still purchase food at this time. Silence. Then I just said I've to go. Oh my God I had some shakes going home from starvation, mopped a sandwich on the way home from a garage, was actually shaking. $#*!ed to my sister about it again, she asked why do I bother because I always get home pissed off but also find it hilarious!
I think the next time (the next time, $#*! I am actually $#*!ed) was when I was on a few hours break from work & I asked had he had tea yet. He said no so we planned to get something on my break. We walk around the shops for a bit when I ask him what does he fancy. Oh suddenly he's miraculously full! What the hell. I just realised how food obsessed I am ha ha! So we walk around for a bit, my eyes are so bloody wide & what the $#*!y as we walk around. We get to the food court & he asks me what am I getting thinking "oh, he must be hungry now" I queue up & order. He is no where to be seen. Get my order which I had ordered to sit in but luckily they gave it to me as a take away accidentally. As I receive it he's miraculously back. "Are you not getting anything?" I ask. "No I'm fine." Well sweet Lord Devine just $#*!ing shoot me. I held myself for 5 minutes before saying that I wanted to head back to work earlier to get a shower. Got back to my car, shifted but I didn't enjoy it. He sensed I was pissed off about something but I just said I was tired because I am such a $#*!ing nice person. Get to work, mop my food because I was steeeeeeeeerving!
It was at this point I lost all interest, I forgot to reply, I was talking to other people, I was busy, life was in the way. I lost all respect etc.
He copped my sudden lack of interest & eventually just asked straight out what happened. I said nothing, he kept at me so I eventually blurted the whole thing out about how stingy he was. His responses didn't even make sense. I think he did come to mine again & he covered both of our Chinese take away, finally. He messaged me regularly but I'd forget to reply, you know yourself when you're literally just not interested. A couple of months pass & it's around Christmas time. I find a card addressed to me on the hallway floor, with a stamp and everything! It was from him! A letter of apology, 2 little gifts & a groupon voucher for a massage. Not bad. Now I never used the voucher due to it being for a place that I wouldn't be for recreational purposes. I did think it was sweet at the time but as time passed it was kind of like a tight gift as well but I'll give him the benefit of the doubt because I'm not a material person. I got him a few gifts too & I made him dinner at one of the stages, shepherds pie or something along the lines of that. After our dinner there was a small baking dish left over, just enough do feed an adult. I asked him did he want to bring it home and he accepted which was great. The next day we were messaging & he said how he & his son (who's around 12 I think) had it for tea, he said his son wished there was more. You'd think he's have even put on a few chips there's no way it would've filled two people. If he's poor that's one thing but he had no problem scabbing off me. That last bit was funnier before but as I wrote it I kind of felt bad. Anyway think I called him down for a ride in January some time then I just lost all interest. He still snapchats the odd time, I might reply, I might not. His face kinda makes my feel sick. Never got my baking dish back either ha ha! Now onto the next one.

Subject 2 - TINDER 2015

Mutually matched (both swiped "yes" on each other for those not familiar.) Oh how a single swipe of the finger can change ones life forever. That's a tad bit dramatic. He was nearly 40 I think. Anyway we exchange numbers on it, getting on grand, his spelling wasn't the most amazing but I don't judge people on that too much as I know people who suffer from dyslexia & it's not their fault. Got on well, arranged to meet at a pub close to my work place after I finished my shift (he lived near where I work.) Got near the pub where he was standing & he hopped into the car showing me where to park. Got out & he headed to the bar & got us a drink. I wasn't drinking alcohol as I was driving home. We sat down in a little booth, him opposite me, we talked, well he talked most of the time in this annoying Dublin accent about how he was in Chicago bla bla & how he went either with a girl or met a girl over there who ended up ditching him over there. I thought that was mean at the time but now I know why! Still thought he was kinda cute, a bit too thin for my liking but I found him attractive. I get us a round of drinks, he's still waffling away & I'm more smiling & nodding. This man could talk. Then suddenly he goes all dramatic up to the bar man & tells him how he just saw a bunch of teens legging it away from somewhere outside. Probably up to no good but it literally had nothing to do with anything, I'd say the bar man was like what the $#*!?! He also said he played in a band which always sounds so cool but I've heard that SO many times it doesn't impress me in the slightest. After him after having about 4 large Bulmers he's having a great time, I'm getting kind of bored due to being sober & having the ears talked off me. Next thing he comes over to my side of the booth & goes "I just have to kiss ya" in which I went along with but as he pulled away his head was all annoying & shaky. We shifted some more then went to another bar that I had NO interest on going to. He ended up talking the ears off me again, then some locals he knew came over & you could see by them that my date was a bit of a spa, they kind of took the piss out of him without him even realising. Oh he plays the harmonica & bongo, will get back to that. It was gone 12am so I had to just explain that I have a 50 minute drive home & then work again in the morning so he eventually finishes his drink & walks me part of the way to my car. We shift (my hands were getting busy & could feel that he was thinner than I'd usually go for) then I head back to mine. Oh and he kept saying his eyes were blue, has nothing to do with anything but they were bloody green.
I think we were chatting most days, actually yes we did he would message me through every means of doing so. Facebook messenger, Viber, WhatsApp, text you name it. I probably should have backed off at that point but you know yourself.
This fella over the course of us chatting said he owned this sports car, he showed me a video, I thought it was cool but it didn't impress me, not too mad in to cars. This part will make sense as the story unfolds.
I was coming from Dublin back down to my home one afternoon, I was at a friend's house the previous night & asked did he fancy coming down for the day & get the bus back. He accepted, all good. We get all frisky on the couch & head upstairs, I am not just saying this to be mean but the sex was completely mediocre, he sweated so much my hands kept slipping off of his back, it was quite nasty. He also never smelt of anything, as though he hadn't had a fresh shower or sprayed on a bit of aftershave which was a bit strange. Actually the previous fella was a bit on the BO side as well now I think of it. Not sure what that's about. I said I was cooking us dinner so I head downstairs & put it on, when it was pretty much ready I called him. He said he was coming down. 20 minutes later he hasn't come down so I go up to him & say its getting cold, he comes down barely even picks at it because he's a skinny little $#*! then we drink cans & watch TV. Oh I mentioned I had some weed upstairs from ages ago when I went to a festival, we must've been talking about smoking at one stage. He asked could he have some so I went & got it & he rolled it up etc & smokes the whole lot, never even got offered any of my own drugs haha! Probably went to bed after, the next morning I got down & put us on some toast & cereal that he likes & a cup of coffee. I bring it up in a tray & he goes "think I'll keep you" which is so flattering but so cringe as I was already going off him, he just waffled so much. We bummed in bed for a while, he wanted to stream a film in my room so you're talking 2 more hours being confined to a room. This would be ideal if it was with someone ili actually wanted to spend time with. I asked him did he want to do something, we couldn't think of anything so I got my mate to text me to say her Mum was in hospital so I could leave. It wasn't a lie but she's been there for a while so I dropped him to the bus station and he left. Freedom.
Now he doesn't seem too bad but it was his constant messaging that was beginning to wear me down & he was always liking and sharing $#*! on Facebook, your talking 50 things a day, no exaggeration. I gave myself a few days to think about things then I was like $#*! it we'll meet up again. He was going to drive but suddenly him & his Dad share it so he couldn't bring it. This "sports car" was never seen or mentioned again, probably just borrowed it for 5 mins & got someone to record it! It didn't matter, the bus goes down near mine so say the bus he got was due to stop near my estate at 3, I drove to the bus stop just so he wouldn't get lost actually walking to my place, it wasn't far but I wasn't sure if he'd remember. So I see the bus he's on pull up & no one gets off. That's strange I'm thinking because he knew to stop there. So I'm following the bus into town for it's next stop like a spa. He gets off & goes to cross the road, I'm waving like crazy at him, he doesn't see me then I beep the horn & then he acknowledges me. He opens the passenger door & I ask him did he not think I'd be waiting for him, then he said that he was going to go into a pub for a bit to charge his phone to message me. I'm thinking well if you didn't like & share the bejesus out of your phone battery like a normal person then your phone wouldn't be flat! We go back to mine for a bit, prob shift etc then we were both hungry so instead of cooking we decided to get a chippers. He orders his then I order mine, we get to the till & the cashier asks were we paying together or separate. Simple question. Your man doesn't reply even though he's first at the counter so I just said "separate" to save the awkward silence. It was a bit annoying seeing as I cooked & bought us drinks the first time, thought he'd at least cover my wrap & chips, hardly breaking the bank!
He went home the next day & that's the last I saw of him. I messaged him very politely saying I wasn't ready for a relationship, he said it was fine & that if I ever changed my mind to get back to him. Oh I just remembered he sent me a million awful selfies a day, a video of him playing the bongos which was so awkward to watch, a sound clip of him playing the harmonica to that song "creep" & he also put a collage of my photos together with love hearts around it before we even met. The two times he came down my way I noticed on Facebook that he wrote my hometown on his status spelt arse ways with a happy face as well. Sad really. All bits are only coming to me now, he was obsessed with star signs & because we were both Sagittarius he was full sure that we were meant to be together.
After he sent that reasonable reply I said thanks & take care. Well, not even an hour passed & he got pissed off with me asking why was I on a dating site if I wasn't ready for a relationship then he told me his Dad was in hospital. I have probably missed out a lot more to this story as things are only really coming back to me now, the order mightn't be accurate but all this happened. I actually think I broke it off before & he said his Dad was rushed to hospital & this was the second & last time I broke it off for real, that's when he said his Dad was dying. Convenient. Prior to this he did get very obsessive with copying & pasting the way Sagittarius people think etc, it was too much. I blocked him on everything except bloody Viber because I completely forgot then I get "Now I know the real you, good luck to you $#*!" & I just replied "have fun harassing the next girl" then he got nasty saying he was gonna send some videos of me to my work place. By videos they're not what they sound, they were me embarrassingly miming on dubsmash nothing sexual! And I was like "yeah work away" then he said I was fat with horrible tits & that it was no wonder my boyfriend left me, which wasn't even true. What are you, 12? I put a laughing face and said "I never said I was skinny & yeah my tits aren't great." Then he replies "I'm glad we got all the anger out, I really like you" bla bla bla. I told him to please stop contacting me. Later on he rang me on Viber saying how he was crying so much, it sounded so pathetic. My sister actually recorded the whole thing! Then his Dad "died". I felt terrible if this was true, but I knew it was lies. I went along with it asking did he need support at the funeral "I'm not going to the funeral" he replied. I was like you have to go, it's your Dad. "I told him when he was here that I wouldn't go" as you do! So I looked up all deaths with his surname, nothing. Then I looked up deaths in his area, still nothing. A few days had passed & I got a message off him on Facebook, I'd unblocked him as I wanted to see did he put anything up about his Dad. He asked did I want to meet up for some "crazy, funky sex" I declined, as tempting as it was. Ha. He said he could make me scream all night & I just asked why he didn't do that the times we were together already, he said something along the lines of because we didn't really know each other. I said that trying to hook up with someone should be the last thing on his mind after burying a parent. He then sends me a pic of his horrible $#*!. Then I asked him why did he & his Dad have different surnames? Now, this wouldn't have made any sense to someone normal. He replies "he wasn't my real Dad" I ask "he was your step Dad?" "No he was like my real Dad, my real Dad died when I was 6 months old" I then send an image of a bull$#*!-o-meter going off the scale. He said I was heartless etc. then goes back to asking for sex. Blocked! That was the end of him! Half expected him to get a bus down to murder me haha!

In between these online flings I have been seeing a few people I met in real life but they were no better. Liked me for 5 minutes then ditched. I think there's more wrong with me than I think!

SUBJECT 3 - POF 2015

Talked for a few days, he was 34 or so & he had children which never bothered me before but my ex has children & I don't think I have room in my heart to be getting involved again. Selfish maybe but honest. We talked for a bit via POF and as I was talking to a few others he was pushed aside. It happens to us all, you get into conversation with someone for a few hours, someone "better" takes your fancy & so forth. Anyway that same evening he practically begged me to give him a chance, he wasn't too far from me so I said feck it, I'll give it a go.
Met up one afternoon, might have been the following day, well what a sweetie, I could tell he was nervous, he kept saying it too. He seemed very into me, really flattering but kind of too much too soon. He asked me during the date would I meet him again. I said yes & I did. I did fancy him he just seemed too intense & kissing him was almost forced, he would randomly just put his arms around me & kiss me. Sounds lovely but we were strangers. Can't say a bad word about him though. A lovely guy. It ended when he asked me during the second date would I see him again, kind of put on the spot there. I said yes, which I meant at that time. I was talking to another lad as well & lost interest. He text me asking would I meet up again & I honestly just said I couldn't commit to anything. That was the end of that.
Actually he makes me realise that there are genuinely sweet people on the site. We made Facebook friends & I see he is now in a relationship & I am delighted for him, he deserves to be happy.

SUBJECT 4 - POF 2015

Nice to look at, in his early 30's, lived practically 2 minutes up the road from my parents. Met the same evening as a date with "subject 3", prob a bit bad but it happened.
Met at his place, he looked as good as his photos, well let's just say there was absolutely no chemistry what so ever. I had more craic with his dog. His Dad arrived to the house unexpectedly & I got on better with him, seriously! After a pleasant evening of chatting like we were two awkward teenagers. We shared an awkward, no chemistry at all kiss outside. It was so cold my lips were shuddering aswell! Said our goodbyes. He text me that evening making sure I got home safe, I'd already fallen asleep but I replied the next day. Never a second "date" but he actually text me last week (2+ months after) so he either was bored or no one is interested in replying to him. Not a bad guy just no chemistry. I had actually forgotten about him!

SUBJECT 5 - POF 2015

Now this lad was perfect, I'm talking got on via texting from the get go. He was 36. We actually met on a Friday after only after starting to talk on a Wednesday. We met half way in a pub Friday evening, he hands me a box of Butlers chocolates, how sweet. Although he was shorter than I expected I found him attractive, a bit goofy but he said he was getting braces, I didn't even mind the goofiness it was cute. The conversation was just flowing, we laughed, both asked questions that came out naturally, we actually kissed which felt to me like the most amazing kiss you could imagine for a first date. We both walked towards our cars, kissed again then drove home. I actually rang my friend on the way home saying how crazy well we got on, the perfect date. I get home & he messaged "Hope you got home safe, great date x" & I replied that I got home safe & agreed that we got on well. We messaged each other every day without fail, there were no games, sometimes I messaged first, sometimes him, it was just perfect. The next time we met he met me in a pub near where I worked, like the first time, the conversation was flowing, we kissed, we had a connection, it went great. The only thing I will say is he mentioned that he used to take "E" a lot which is a strong drug, I wasn't brought up around that. I was quite surprised as he seemed really intelligent. We laughed, kissed, he had his arm around me. At the end of the date we said our goodbyes and he would've either messaged me that night or the day after. I can't quite remember where we met the 3rd time, cinema & dinner possibly, but it wasn't until the 4th time that we slept together which as you can guess, was amazing! We met on average 3 days a week, he always made the effort. We took it in turns to cover dates/dinners. All so perfect. This went on for around 8 weeks of texting & even talking on the phone most evenings. By week 6 or so I asked him did he fancy going to a concert with me, he accepted. Now within those 8 or so weeks he had met my 2 sisters & good few of my friends who he got along with. He even met my Mum accidentally. After the concert we & 3 of my friends went for a few drinks. We walked along the quays hand in hand & I stayed at his, met his housemate, all was good. I was going on holidays on the Monday and the concert was on the Friday before hand. He dropped me back to my mates place (my car was at hers) Saturday morning after getting breakfast rolls for ourselves & the others. He stayed for a bit then headed on & we arranged to meet on Sunday. He came over on Sunday, we went out for dinner which he covered like a gent. We kissed goodbye for ages & he said he'd miss my lips. We did a hell of a lot of kissing. 2 days into my holiday we are messaging just fine, he sends kisses etc. I was over on holidays for a wedding, the wedding was on Wednesday, this is where it all ended. I'm setting the scene, I'm at a wedding, it's about 5/6pm give or take, I've been drinking rather large measurements of vodka since 2pm. It's all lovey dovey & beautiful. When suddenly, 2 things that should never be able to be in contact with each other: alcohol & a mobile phone. The devil's combination. This is all I remember as I am a mess but I text him with something along the lines of "I think I'm falling for you" I know I know, it's been 2 months & it's too soon for that. I was drunk, I was at a wedding etc. well I can't remember the reply as I go and delete our entire "relationship" worth of messages out of drunken stubbornness. I know he said he didn't see us going anywhere, I'm too young etc. And this fella only a few days before hand when I asked what would I refer to him as to my friends we were going to the concert with. He says "well boyfriend" so his words there.

That was the end of my most "perfect" POF date in the matter of seconds. Do I regret sending that text? A little, but I keep telling myself how many more months would I have wasted with him if I hadn't have written that. Things happen for a reason. And because I'm quite emotionally immature sometimes & it makes my feel better. Here's a list of his faults, enjoy:

Told me he had a fear of cardigans
He didn't like me rubbing his upper arms or lower back in case I stretched his t-shirts
Takes "E"
Wore that stupid string that old or simple people wear on all his sunglasses
Asked me to wash my mouth with soap when I kissed my dog before I kissed him
I went down on him once then when we got down to business he went all strange when I kissed him, he then says he's funny about that & asked could I rinse my mouth out. I just didn't bother kissing him.

It's amazing what exceptions you make when you like someone.

Actually think I'm done with lads, I've been talking to my ex a lot so I wouldn't be surprised if we try things again.

I don't believe everyone on POF is a complete weirdo I just thing the human race is getting greedy, thinking they can always get someone better. The grass isn't always greener on the other side. I'm still a good few years off my 30's, these lads are getting closer to 40, God knows what they're really looking for.

All the best :)

I did a series of experiments to see how pointless it is for men to log online in hopes of finding a woman using Online Dating.

Experiment #1.
I made a profile with the Ugliest most beastly woman I could find on the net. Before I could even finish my profile I had about 5 messages in my inbox from men. That profile received about 50-65 messages EVERY SINGLE DAY.

Experiment #2
I made a profile using some Instagram models pics & by the end of the day I had OVER 3k messages & averaged between 800- 1200 messages EVERY SINGLE DAY!

Experiment #3
I heard the rumours that MEN OUTNUMBER WOMEN 100:1 on dating sites so I decided to run an experiment. I logged on 4AM in the morning & put in a 25 mile radius off my house to see how many Women where logged online. 1 page came up of around 15 Women. 8 of those "WOmen" where Transvestites. And another 5 where prostitutes. So there ws Only 2 TOTAL WOMEN ONLINE.
4AM is the Deadest time of the day so Under Advanced search I changed it from Man looking for Women to Woman looking for Man & I saw ALL 35 PAGES of Men where Logged ONLINE!

LET THAT SINK IN FOR A MOMENT. Every page has 20 members per page. 20X35= 700. Which means there was a MINIMUM OF 700 GUYS FOR ONLY 2 WOMEN ONLINE! It could be More but it ONLY shows Up too 35 pages. It could very well be 7k Men Online. Its Fukin INSANE!

Its IMPOSSIBLE for ANY SIngle WOman to still be single with that kind of ratios in their favor yet you see all the same women logged in DAY & NIGHT. Day after day for YEARS & YEARS!

Experiment #4 I made a profile using a male model. As expected I did get a slight increase of responses from Women. But it was Mostly n increase from Women who rate a 2 or 3.

CONCLUSION. "ONLINE DATING IS A HUUUUGE WASTE OF TIME & Virtually POINTLESS FOR ANY HETEROSEXUAL MAN looking for a WOman!

The ratios of Men to WOmen are off the charts Insane! Sometimes being 700:1.
Hypergamy has ALways existed with WOmen but ONLINE it QUADRIPLES! Where even a 2 or 3 wont talk to a man unless he is a Solid 10!
On the Other hand if you like Transvestites you will be in heaven there. This website is Full of them! I can ONLY assume that so many Lonely Desperate Men simply give up & go with the ONLY thing that responds to them. Just to be with ANything that resembles a Woman. Which is probably why there is such an Influx of trannies on there.

ALso if you like H00kers & Pr0stitutes your Also in luck! Ever since Backpage closed down you can find your daily hooker or webcam girl on there!
Last but Not least if your into FAT TATTED UP SINGLE MOMS with ATTITUDE your also in luck! But be prepared you are competing with THOUSANDS UPON THOUSANDS Of Other desperate Single lonely men to get with one of those Fatties!
Once upon a time when Dating sites was considered a Novelty you could possibly meet a woman. Fast Frwd to TODAY ONLINE DATING IS COMPLETELY DEAD!

POF is NOT a dating site. There is NO SUCH thing as a dating site ANymore. Plenty of Fish are simply Attention Wh0ring sites for Women to get Free Attention & Validation from Male Simps. The majority of women on there have NO INTENTION WHATSOEVER in meeting or dating ANYONE! The same women can be seen on there year after year logging in day & night for YEARS some 10 Years or More!
I could go on & on but if you are a SIngle Straight Male you will have little to NO luck on here.

Im a over 6 foot, athletic attractive young man with a savings a house & nice car & personality. And I cant pull a woman to save my life on there unless I go way way way below my standards. Like scraping the barrel low. Many years ago I could but now completely dead.

If your a MAn thinking of Online dating especially POF DONT!

I am a tall fit, educated, world traveled and been told very handsome man. I have been on POF for 6 years. As of today 214 women have clicked the "want to meet me" button on my profile. I made my profile very funny, and the pictures I posted are high quality(I am a photographer) I have chatted, and talked on the phone with about forty pof women. But I have been on just two dates. The first blocked me three hours after the date; On the other date the woman got up from her chair and check the back of my neck to see if neck hair was trimmed. (She actually grabbed my socks to check their color), scrutinized my teeth like she was buying a horse. (She stood me up the first planned date------I gave her a second chance) On the date meet and greet short date, she told me we were going to get something to eat, (later she told me she was cheap--but not with my money). She criticized one date she had been on, because the man had a cane. I am 65 she is 67. I saved the date and she has asked me back out several times. (It will never happen) My personality is a very easy going forgiving type. But common sense told me not to see this woman again; and after chatting with many, many pof women, to basically not see (date) 99.9% percent of them. All that I am writing is my opinion. IMHO Older American women on pof, for the most part, are cunning, calculating, cold blooded players who have dated fifty, sixty 100 plus men in their eternal search for the BBD---the bigger, better deal... That is my objective and subjective opinion. The women my age all act like Plenty of Fish are puritans and Rebecca of Sunny Brook Farm. They will block you for any reason. IMHO they want security now that they are old, in the form of some duffus with money who never had a spine. And American women on pof seem to have no problem going out with 100 different men till they find the perfect chump. ("I know he is out there." they say." I will not settle they say." They describe some Harlequin romance novel fiction about how the relationship should be------fine dining, broadway shows, the conversation will flow with "witty banter." my man will be "attentive" yet give me "my space."----(This is what they insist their man will be-------while mothers with babies in third world countries sit in the dirt begging!) Listen to me American men! I know what I am talking about! And to be fair, there are a lot of aggressive jerks on pof women deal with. But what lifetime POF women members will never admit, is that they are players: again cold-blooded, cunning, and calculating in their sucker-search. Are there good women on pof? Sure. There is also gold in them thar' hills if you want to waste a lifetime looking for it. It sickens me how pof has given me an insight into American women. I am giving serious thought to living in a country where women act respectfully towards men, and men treat them as equals which they are. (we are all in this mess called life together and just passing thru---manners count my mother said) Bottom line: Better to be alone than with the American nightmare no matter how beautiful she is. Grow a spine men! I have no doubt my post will be deleted. Truth can be ugly, but sometimes, it needs to be told. I am a disabled vet. I figured I earned the right to express my opinion, and hopefully warn some poor innocent smuck. So put your man pants on and say "No Way" when you see a bad relationship coming your way---No matter how beautiful she is!

POF is a dating site wherein membership is "free". Recently (spring 2013) the ownership - this is a privately held company which I prefer over the huge corporate money sucking dating conglomerates.

There seems to be a huge change in policy. Many non-paying and paying mens accounts are being deleted willy-nilly. A woman told me that she received an email from the owner that he is weeding out men who are overtly sexual with woman - the five guys she knows (including me) would never ever consider sending or writing something of pronograpic nature - so that is an out right lie. I tend to write many woman - as with all dating sites men out number women by a very high percentage, and most women do not write back - there is no way for a man to show a woman interest without writing an email - pof policy bans copy paste messages, however when most woman write "I am looking for a guy with like interests in her profile description, I tend to send a copy paste email because I have no idea what to write to her). I suspect that paying members are less likely to be deleted.

I did write a very harsh email to a member who turned out to be 16 years old pretending to be a 30 yo adult. I am a teacher and do not think adults and kids should "mingle" and believe that there was no good reason for her to be on the site.

My guess is that if the ownership continues it draconian management practices,

For every 40 women I wrote, three or four responded of which one to three would say "not interested". For every 100 women, 25%-35% are married or in a relationship and lying about it, 1-3 are men pretending to be women, and 10-15 are prostitutes. As with men on here (per reviews by women on site jabber), many POF women are not desirable for real relationships. Going through an illness; married; financially debt ridden and looking for a man to pay off their debts; extremely out of shape; drug, gambling, or alcohol issues; wanted in various states; angry with their spouse or X and taking it out on the men on POF; or completely psychotic. These woman also tend to be on Match, Mingle, and the other paying sites, so it may be the norm.

In general, you can find a partner on POF (men expect to work your bottom off writing many women for a very low quality response rate). The site is picture driven, to meet quality members of both sexes, get a higher quality - professional like set of pictures taken. Do somethings fun (although pictures of women shooting guns scare the heck out of me - what kind of a potential partner shows that he/she can blow your brains out?), one professional dress picture, one dress up picture for a night out - woman makeup and nice hair etc such as one taken at a wedding, formal party, and/or new-years- a female friend on mine played with different photos and highly suggest showing some cleavage with bit of care so that men do not jump to the conclusion that men tend to jump to - use this picture as your main because this is the only thing men know about you prior to clicking on your profile (we have no choice but to look at your picture on this site), then one or three with you smiling and doing things you enjoy doing. Be VERY careful about posting a picture of you with your friends or children. If there are two or more woman in a picture, I have to guess which one you are and often guess wrong (and quite often, the other person looks better in the picture), I feel it is unwise to put pictures of children on an adult dating site even if Plenty of Fish are yours.

I am not created another account on POF and until the ownership stops deleting nice guys from the system; I recommend that you do not waste your time as well.

Plenty of fish? Guess that title is more catchy then plenty of bottom dwellers. Wow, the women that text me (assuming Plenty of Fish are women) only want money. Aye caramba! They ask more times for money then the worst church services I ever went too! I guess some are illiterate. Ahh too bad. They can't read to fill out taxes to get them stimulus checks. Ahhh tough luck. Well the needy (ha, greedy) ladies should get a GED, so they won't miss out on stimulus checks after filling out the tax form. Oh wait a minute,... they need money for gas so they can attend GED classes. Holy cow! I think my sarcasm makes more sense, then these 'ladies stories'. I'm mean come on! Oh, they will get their inheritance soon. Oh, their mom is sick, but she needs money for a phone. Golly gee wilickers. I guess them Obama phones were limited supply. I mean some of these stories don't make any sense. The tabloids won't even print their stories! I mean the Enquirer has to have atleast something half baked believable. Well for folks that believe the word gullible isn't in the dictionary. I have better luck being picked up by a alien from a UFO then to have a centerfold looking lady profile that says she has all these gold bars, and loves wild sex too that will meet me. Haha. She just needs money for a Phone. I don't mean to be sexiest, but a lady that doesn't have a phone in Salt Lake City just might make the local news! So many gosh darn, dad gum, confounded, fake profiles on this site. I'm sure I'll run into a profile with the most homely looking, incredibly plain, lady with pimples all over her face, that would say "I got money for pimple cream. But I need a phone to call for a prescription of 'special pimple cream'. Yes, these stories make as much sense as beer flavored breath mints. Makes as much sense as a three toe sloth as a Olympic runner in the 500 yard dash. Haha "Go Thunder!". Well I give this site one star, because I give my review one star. My star will never burn out. So this is my one star, for me. Not for plenty of fish. They want money, I don't even have any bait on my hook! Maybe I should send the next needy broke potential date a picture of my expired EBT card. I mean with all the down and out stories, or stores of inheritance that gets transferred from their texts to my brain,. Oh ow! My head is beginning to see stars. The stars are swerlling around my head like a villain from a Bugs Bunny cartoon. Yikes, I better get a prescription from all the stars I'm seeing. Oh dear. My goodness, their stories aren't original either. The same two or three tales over and over again. These tales might go into syndication! Such tales won't even make the final cut to Amazing Stories. Not even close. (That joke would be funny if anyone remembers Amazing Stories tv show in the mid 1980's. The site might be renamed GIVE TO PLENTY OF FISH. GPF for short. The fishes are broke. Oh my goodness.

I'm writing this extensive review from a man's perspective. This review was edited (again) on 21. 9. 15.

This is a genuine dating site and I've met a lot of girls from POF since joining in 2012 (using the site infrequently). I've had a number of relationships but due to this effectively being blind dating, and lots of people on POF having serious personal problems, I don't think it is possible to find "the one" on here so I no longer use it.

I used POF because I am extremely shy around women, possibly due to being mild aspergers, and it is hard for me to make the first move (women usually don't because "equality" and it is hard to logically explain to me why strange women are worth the anxiety and stress of talking to).

I have learned to be very suspicious why some women would even use online dating if they're as "in-demand" as Plenty of Fish usually say they are. ("I pull an average of three blokes on every night out... PLEASE DATE ME AND HAVE SEX WITH ME")

I recently deleted my profile because of two women who were plainly psychos, but also because most women seem to be there to get their ego stroked. Beware the "friend collector" who cancels the day before the first date but wants to stay in touch as friends - this is probably the most common type now.

I would advise men who "must" use POF to consider becoming a paid member as it massively increases your chances at getting messages or replies, for a while anyway. POF will automatically renew your paid subscription - you must make sure this option is disabled as they don't do refunds.

Men *might* average one to three messages per week with a good picture and a good profile, provided he is VERY active on the site and a paid member, but most will go weeks or months without any contact at all. Women, contrary to what they say, do not seem to read your profile and do not like long profiles or long messages. Women also don't like pics of men looking directly at the camera or without a shirt, even though many of them post pics of themselves pole dancing or showing way too much leg. They also prefer to send you messages just saying "Hi" (which they themselves hate to receive).

Women get a "flirt option" where they can "express an interest in you" - there is no explanation provided to the male member of what this actually means, or why she didn't just send you a message. A few have strenuous lists of demands, and some even ask you to score yourself to see if it's worth messaging them.

The site says 1 in 3 of your messages won't get a reply. Literally, I think my overall response rate was 15%, which is actually really good for a man. Most women only send one or two very short responses that are nearly impossible to turn into a conversation. You are lucky if you actually date one in every hundred women. And I don't think I actually dated a woman who I messaged first.

I will warn you now that being a male on POF will earn you the status of "scum of the earth" and some women will take their problems out on you, give you the run around, cheat on you and she is unlikely to look anything like her profile pictures (I've never met a girl who looked exactly like her pics).

Typically women start sending me sexts by the end of the first or second day. One even recorded herself moaning my name on Whatsapp (we hadn't even met).

About two thirds of the women I managed to date offered sex, or admitted they wanted sex, on the first night. More than one girl didn't want to see me again after I declined first date sex. One girl cried when I said no, then threatened me the next day.

I learned through POF that the ONE thing women can never hear is the word "no" - you don't say it to the monkeys in Planet of the Apes, you most certainly don't say it to a woman who's getting 10 messages a day, because she's on par with God, apparently.

So, to be "successful" on POF, be an aspie; let women make the first move; do not buy her a meal or spend much money on the first date; or better yet, overcome your fears and ask women out in real life, you're 90% less likely to get murdered.

If you're looking for a hookup, POF is frustrating and demoralising but can work, but I was looking for love, and that doesn't exist on POF.

After being on Plenty of Fish for two days, I decided to become a paid member on 06/30/13. And took notice immediately after of changes that began happening to my profile.
I was unable to access most of the paid upgrade membership perks. And the company was purposefully NOT following its own rules and policies. And forget about getting a helpful response from customer service. I began doing some research of complaints. And with each one I read, it only got worse.
I noticed tons of victims of Plenty Of Fish which does have the Perfect Bait. I'm not alone.
Victims attempting to look for love on a site that blocks both paid membership and unpaid memberships, for NO apparent reason. Scamming unsuspecting victims of their money.
To past members who found out that Markus Frind allows his goons to post fake profiles with the pictures of those victims who were abruptly locked out of the site. And can't get back in to protest removal. Having to be told by others their pictures are still actively on line without their knowledge or permission.

As I cautiously read and reread the polices to be sure to keep my profile from being one of those deleted and blocked from reentering. I noticed that my profile pictures kept being deleted.
Each one clearly showing the face of the profile user. Myself. A stipulation of the policy.
It was impossible to determine what was acceptable and what was not. As I had already heard about the random termination of profiles that don't abide by their rules. NONE of my pictures went against policy. Although I received many profile visits from users who did go against policy showing bare midriffs, non face pics, nude pictures of bodies, and genitals parts inappropriately dancing across my screen by non-paid members. With every attempt to flag these profiles and report each and every infraction nothing was done to correct it. I then noticed that my emails were being monitored.
On more than one occasion my return emails to other members would disappear before my eyes.
With the thousands of unpaid members that should have been monitored, I was being monitored carefully each and every day of the 4 days I had a paid membership. Careful not to infringe on policy.

Taking notice that my whole profile was constantly being rearranged differently every time I returned.
I realized that the profile that I created was NOT MY PROFILE. I requested help again.
In the mean time, I gathered as much information of support that I could get my hands on, including dates, times, billing numbers, address, examples, etc. etc. Unfortunately, other dating sites are sister sites to POF who practice the same actions. Scam money from unsuspecting victims and terminate your account.

Two days later, I received a threatening email from Markus Frind that I would only be reminded once for uploading pictures that did NOT have my face displayed clearly. And I responded by requesting information of how to get my money back. As I no longer wanted to be a member of a site that DOES NOT follow its own rules and policies, being selective to which profiles could and which profiles couldn't continue their membership. And that I would dispute the transaction with my credit card company and advocate the Better Business Bureau continuously about the site, until someone hears me.

I removed any pics that were left, and all information and left a Thank You, POF on my bare profile, before responding to his email. Eagerly watching and waiting to see how long it would take him to lock out yet another paid member. It didn't take long. He terminated what was left of my profile AND took my money on July 4th, 2013. Four days later. As long as Markus Frind is paid, he doesn't care who he scams. And has gotten away with it long enough.

I will continually advocate every day and every week for as long as it takes, until POF is Shut Down permanetly for those who don't have a voice as well as for myself. POF must be terminated just as the owner has terminated us. A Class Action Suit Is In Order. With NO plans to stop until it happens.

For All Scammed Former POF Users: Please file a claim with your BBB to have you're voice heard for your own piece of mind. Paid or unpaid members. (Speak and be heard.)
Plenty Of Fish Media, Inc. 2625 555 W Hastings St Vancouver, BC V6B 4N5 - Headquarters.

Welcome to The Moronic Inferno (and thanks to Martin Amis for coining a phrase that appropriately applies to this site)!

There appear to be fewer foreign prostitutes and scammers here than on OKCupid; however, what lurks on this site is often more bizarre and, ultimately, rather depressing. Nevertheless, hindsight - which is truly a wonderful thing - tells me this was a fascinating, if ultimately dismal, social experiment,

I joined this site for 30 days. My first encounter - or series of pleasurable encounters - was with a forty-something Home Counties single mother with a seriously dysfunctional home life and desire for long-term financial support from a potential partner. To be fair, she wasn't dishonest about her desire for monetary sustenance; however, this meant that we were ships that passed in the night (or, to be more accurate, in the afternoon, and in several restaurants and bedrooms).

Her tale of woe from this site was instructive and, I believe, enlightening. It transpired that she had only spent around twelve hours on it; and which meant I was rather fortunate to experience the brief but undeniably enjoyable time I spent with her.

During the half-day she had fished for plenty (although as she had set up her profile before going to bed, she had actually spent little time on the site), her profile was visited by several gentlemen, many of whom thoughtfully sent her photographs of their genitalia. One particularly charming gentleman was even considerate enough to send her a close-up photograph of a big toe poking out of a hole in a sock; and she hadn't even expressed a preference for foot fetishism. Unsurprisingly, all of this was enough to make her deactivate her profile within hours.

Aside from the often sad parade of angry, bitter, self-loathing, passive-aggressive or narcissistic profiles written by people who could fill psychiatrists offices until Hell freezes over and which, in some instances, suggest Plenty of Fish should not be allowed to handle sharp implements or, given some of the profile photographs, dress themselves, I had two even more dispiriting experiences that hastened my path to profile termination.

One woman - who seemed genuinely interesting and witty from her profile summary - insisted on regularly phoning me, only to subsequently make feeble and apologetic excuses for terminating our conversations after a couple of minutes (on one occasion, she claimed it was because her lodger returned home early; however, I strongly suspect it was her husband). She phoned every couple of days, repeating a pattern which I fear would have continued to this day if our telephonic correspondence not not (thankfully) ceased.

My second strange experience - and the one which led directly to me deleting my profile - involved a woman who claimed she wanted to meet, and also that she was interested in obtaining employment in the industry I have worked in for many years. Having established that my primary function in this exchange was to be that of an employment agency, I felt it only reasonable to offer a fair price for my strong contacts list (£500, if you're curious) and forego the undoubtedly dubious pleasure of meeting in person.

Reader, she took to the hills - and so should you if you have any pride, self-respect or self-worth!

I can't even begin to describe how much I hate this site. I tried multiple times on here, deleting and remaking a profile. I have finally given up and here is why. This site is not for serious people trying to find a serious relationship. First of all, the majority of the people on this site are disgusting, ignorant, trash. And when you think you've stumbled upon a decent looking guy who seems to be normal, has a good job, and seems to have the same interests as you, one of a few things happen: Plenty of Fish don't respond to your messages, they do respond but its only to insult you, they respond but only to ask you if you'll suck their d*ck, and finally they respond and end up being a completely fake profile. Then they claim that the matches and top prospects are people who are similar to you and what you're looking for and you have a higher % chance at finding love with one of these guys. This is complete and utter bull$#*!. There is NO possible way for them to really be able to determine quality matches personalized to you without requiring further questioning and analysis of who you are and what you look for. Yes, they have chemistry tests and a needs assessment test both of which are extremely long and neither of which is required to be done by users. So how can they possibly claim that they are determining the best matches for you when the basic profile questions hardly explain who you are and what you are looking for. Next, as far as the "UPGRADED" membership plans they offer, it is completely ludicrous that they charge people to "upgrade" because they only offer about 3 other additional features when you upgrade. Now I was never stupid enough to upgrade, but when I re-created a profile at my last attempt with this site, it somehow was giving me these upgraded features and saying that I was an upgraded user. Here is what an "upgrade" gets you: you can see if your messages were read or not, you can see who clicked YES in the meet me, and you can see when a user was last online. THAT'S IT! That is literally all you get when you pay to have an upgraded membership. Total complete bull$#*!. I didn't have high expectations to begin with seeing as how this is essentially a free dating site, but what I experienced horrible. I got messages from ghetto and trashy people who don't have jobs, an education, or even know how to form a proper sentence when messaging someone. I got replies from men that I thought seemed like someone I would be interested that were unbelievably mean and uncalled for. Instead of simply ignoring me or responding saying they weren't interested, they would call me names and say horrible things to me and tell me I was way out of my league. Now a lot of you will read this and think "oh this girl must be fat, ugly, and desperate. I can assure you, I am none of those things. I am simply someone who leads a busy life and doesn't think that picking up men in a bar is a good way to meet a decent guy. I would go to meet someone and when I showed up, they were someone TOTALLY different and had used someone else's images. I am not the kind of person who reviews things or complains even when I really don't like something, but this site is just complete and total bull$#*!. They market themselves as a dating site and talk about ways to find real love and relationships but offer no real compatibly testing. Not only that, they have nothing on their site about contacting them or their customer service. That right there shows me that they know how $#*!ty their site is and they could care less.
So ladies, if you are someone who is really looking to meet a decent man and maybe find a relationship, PLEASE do yourself a favor and DO NOT waste your time on this site. But hey, if all you're looking for is sex and are one of the trashy women i've heard are on this site then by all means knock yourself out. And yes, i've been told by guys on this site that most of the women who contact them are disgusting and offer themselves up like whores. So if thats the kind of women you are, a women who clearly doesn't respect herself in ANY way, or you're the kind of man who wants a women like that, then maybe this site is for you. But as for us normal and decent men and women, do yourself a favor and just pay for a respectable dating site that has genuine capabilities for matching you with decent and normal people and the reputation to back it up.

At least there are more people on POF than any other dating site. Look at Match.com and Okcupid, these sites are littered with fake profiles of yuppies that have pics of themselves backpacking through the Alps or Skydiving. When Joe or Jane Average sees this Plenty of Fish go the other way. The problem is match.com, Okcupid and Tinder are ran by Manhattan Yuppies who backpack through Europe during the summer or go scuba diving. These same Yuppies crap money and don't invest a dime. So they think its okay to write fake profiles based on the type of people they think exist.

Let's be hypothetical here. If a fat person opened up a Walmart dating site filled with people who love shopping at Walmart and they needed to write a bunch of fake profiles to get the ball rolling. What do you think those fake profiles would look like? Probably other Walmart fatties and Jesus freaks. My point is a person is going to write a fake profiles based on the types of people they're exposed to. You have no idea how many times I've heard some Hippie with a Liberal Arts degree go on some Tirade that details how little they know about what and who's outside their Concrete, Brick, and Steel city.

A great deal of these reviews are written by men who tried this site. They put up pictures and tried to write a decent profile. In the end they maybe got a couple replies to their emails. They were lucky if they got phone number. Guys really need to learn to be articulate and focus more on the meaning of what they say, instead of focusing on the lines and words.

Don't worry, women get their Nod for their effort too. Some women end up meeting creeps and perverts. Although, I've done this enough to know that if they were more self aware they might be able to avoid a lot of this garbage.

About the reviews accusing this site of having fake profiles. Nope, the profiles are all mostly real. The problem is you have like 7 men to every 1 women. In some larger cities there are 10 men to every 1 woman.
Think about it, some chicks sign up and in 2 hours they have 30 to 70 emails. Numbers or not, they cant possibly get back to you.

There are scammers on POF, so beware. I saw a profile of a 21yo girl who was looking for Active Military members bank account info. He profile was listed in a city that's right next to a large Military base. She said she was investing and could produce a positive return. Whatever!

Some women get addicted to the attention but they burn out before too long on there. The women who get addicted and have to check their emails once an hour are the ones who spend years online.

The other problem is the 'same old, same old' story of people running when faced with other people who say they're looking for the same thing. If I was to write a profile about how much I want a relationship I would get no emails. If I wrote an articulate profile that candidly told of why I want a relation and what I think it means then I would get emails from women who identify with what I wrote. People don't respond to what you say, they respond to what you mean. Lol, the truth is you have... to gulp... be yourself. However you have to talk about normal stuff.

POF is not a numbers game. You can send out mass emails and the people can spot a fake because the email you sent them isn't personalized. Also, if you have a bland profile then its unlikely anyone will email you back. People are looking for a good time, they're on POF for fun. The fact is this is a psychology experiment, not a math experiment. The would be Authors who write about how this is a numbers game are just Bad at Dating. Is it possible to drive a million miles and be a Bad Driver? Yes. That's the way these people date. You have to figure out what you want and be on the same page with the person on the other end of the screen. Otherwise you're just wasting your time.

Here's what I found that works. You have to focus on one person at a time. If you get caught up in the emails you'll screw yourself. Its all time and energy.

My problems are with the way the site functions and the users.

What's hard to believe is how many people that exist on POF that have been single for years upon years. I think online dating and knowing there is someone a page away has made us picky. We're not giving people a fair shake because the site fools us into thinking there is an abundance of people. In reality there isn't an abundance of people. Its a Fool's paradise.

The problem with this Fool's Paradise is people are tricked into thinking they can act crabby and cranky but still find that "Perfect" person for them. There are plenty of Facebook memes that back this idea up. You know the ones that basically say, 'The Perfect man for me will put up with my Cranky attitude.' The problem with POF is the same as why relationships fail in the first place. People think the other person should do all of the work while they act like a $#*! because being a $#*! is their nature.

The fallacy here is simple, anyone who knows their worth is not going to put of with unnecessary B. S.! They know their value and self worth and they can easily find someone who TREATS THEM WELL.

The other problem is my profile made it to the top of searches based on my email activity. The more emails I send the more my profile was out on the top of search lists. Wow smart. I'm busy with an email, why not make me more busy by exposing my profile further.

The other problem is the site isn't encrypting anything and its security for protecting passwords and other data is outdated. I mean massively. The founder Markus only spends about 40 minutes a day dealing with his site.

The biggest problem is the "Creator" Markus. The guy created the site with not much knowledge on how to build a site or a server for that matter. I admire the fact that he just went out and did it and I have to thank him for keeping internet dating free and cheap. Can you imagine how much match.com would be charging if POF wasn't around? However Markus knows very little about dating, what it takes, how it works, and how people come together. The only reason Markus created the site is because it would look good on a resume. IMO the matching system needs an overhaul. There are compatible people on there who aren't meeting because of how the site works. People aren't connecting because there are too may incompatible and uncompromising people in the way.

Sooner or later a better dating site will come along. However at this time you cant argue with free and the shear numbers. If you're going to date online then you might as well use POF. The paid sites have too many fake profiles to keep up with.

I'm sure my review might rub some people the wrong way. If it does then Good, I'm glad, because you're denial is the source of your failure. I hope what I have written motivates you to think like an Adult. The primary problem with POF is there are way too many people who will NOT take accountability for themselves.

There are people who swear they attract Douchebags, Jerks, and $#*!es and blame everyone else for their problems. They're the ones who need to take a look in the mirror because we attract people with a similar mindset. If you're a 45yo who acts like a High School Junior who just got a car and wants to party then don't act surprised when you attract another "Mature" person who acts the same.

Ant that's the problem I'm eluding to. People take to POF in a foolish effort to have a relationship with a Partygoer. They want a relationship with someone who's going to hook them up with a good time. They really think they can have their cake and eat it too. I used to be this way, I loved going out and having a good time. The fact is The Party going Hookup types are either poor Businessmen or they lack Ambition in general. They think like kids, not adults. A person with a childlike mentality is not going to have or find a successful relationship.

My advice, don't get frustrated. Just have fun. If its not working then change it. You have to hold your frame and focus on the people you want to date. Not trying to keep the ones you don't want away. State what you want and what your relationship ideals are, that's very attractive to a like minded person. Take it one person at a time. Keep the texting and phone calls up until the first meeting, show interest. You're looking for someone who's interested in you so why not take the same level of interest in them. It's that simple. However it is time consuming. Internet dating is kinda like living in New York city, those with a weak frame don't make it.

POF claims to be totally free and a great chance to meet other singles. For 4 years since my divorce I have wondered just what the hell was wrong with this site until I figured it out.

First you sign up, take their supposed psychological test to see what your emotional and relationship needs are and then you delve into it. Well, it quickly becomes apparent that people from other countries and parts of the US so remote from you as to be impractical at the very least saying Plenty of Fish are looking for a marriage partner begin first. Then Markus, the bogus well meaning creator of the site implores you to upgrade so you get enhanced service.

Once you reply to these bogus proposals by scammers with cynical remarks and asking questions back to mock they're stupidity at taking you for a sucker there are strangely no responses. You wonder why your heartfelt and witty first time messages to females in your area are met with rebuke, none response, or even being blocked, and of course those message center notices that this member only accepts messages from upgraded members! There's the key!

There are even prostitutes in the mix who dress scantily in their photos and talking about wanting to meet people for fun, not just one sincere man, but people or the famous bull$#*! line "wants to date but nothing serious" even though this profile will have the same long bio about life attitudes and preferences in her man. Could it be just another prostitute or slut just messing around on her boyfriend or spouse. Remember in the beginning POF said it was about finding a partner perhaps even a spouse. Yeah right! Oh, and this site is not supposed to be a hook up or adult sex dating site and many profiles claim they are not there for a booty call! So, what the hell is going on? Your profile photo does not show a the horrid face of bad plastic surgery after a car crash or Middle East tour of duty!

So now you're becoming disgusted over this site and the time and effort you've wasted on it. Why? Oh, and the notices in your inbox of profiles that want to meet you and what happens when you look them up and find they are no longer a member or no longer exist? Get the picture?

Now after a while you look at the profile member guidelines and see that profiles without a photo are to be reported, suspected scammers are to be reported, abusive language or psycho profiles are to be reported! Prostitution is to be reported. Guess what, just try reporting this stuff and add to the equation that the staff who might very well be manning the fake profiles and responses as well as supposedly monitoring these profiles to protect members from scammers and you get thrown out! They terminate your membership and of course with the disclaimer that for any reason they can get rid of you at anytime! After 4 years and seeing the same women's profiles over and over again I wonder why POF allows inactive members to remain on.

My theory here, especially after creating several profiles and getting kicked off for no reason is that if you don't upgrade in a certain amount of time you are a candidate for termination since you haven't been fooled by all the fake members who supposedly want to meet you!

Conclusion: POF is not free. It is not full of real female members. Your membership is contingent upon how soon you will be tricked into upgrading, and if you ask the POF staff to do their job and delete questionable and obvious scam profiles they will get rid of you not the prostitutes, scammers, psychos, or non-photo profiles! It's all bull$#*!, and most likely what responses you do get where there is an exchange of emails are only to entice you into upgrading as I have found the messaging will drop off suddenly for no reason. So, don't waste your time there!

These sites fall under the criminal category of business fraud and probably FCC violations as well as perhaps Trade practice infractions. Why the authorities have not investigated these scams-why credit card companies have not red flagged these bastards? It's all about money my friend because they do not care whether you're being scammed, robbed, emotionally affected or not!

It's not the site that is to blame. It's online dating in general. Problems:
1) Females get WAY TOO MUCH male attention. As such, women who are a "4" suddenly believe Plenty of Fish are entitled to an "8". Thus, women are on there for YEARS wondering why they can't just meet a NICE NORMAL (superhot, ripped, rich) guy.
2) Almost everyone lies. Lies of omission (head shot only people, just saying) and people who mix in older, younger, thinner photos. Men (I hear) embellish about career and income. Weak. Other people just post old pics or ones so far away they are of no use.
3) Selection effect. When faced with so so many choices, people suddenly get extremely choosy. It's a documented psychological effect. Give guests 10 dessert choices instead of two and time how long it takes them to decide and watch the uncertainty!
4) "Profile matching" and comparing similar interests is said to be secondary in importance to how people get along - read: communication styles, personality type, and other things that don't have to do with hobbies, interests, travel, type of music and flavor of iced cream. Pet allergies is useful info though...
5) You have no idea what the other person is REALLY looking for. Men often fiend relationship readiness to try and just "get some action". I also noticed a lot of women have intimacy and trust issues and are in stark denial about it, lamenting over and over how they "just can't find a good guy" and "all men are creeps" etc. etc. Self awareness in the general population seems to be as low as ever.

So I say don't blame POF - it's actually a pretty decent site. It's just that online dating in general has a lot wrong with it. I think I got good value for $84 for 1 year of access. The features are neat, and if you can express yourself well you CAN meet people. But the problem with "plenty of fish" is trying to sort through all of them getting someone who is even close to a match. Most people I meet make for a fun date, but the profile and short "texting" exchange doesn't tell you enough about the person. I think meeting in person, the old fashioned way, might take more time and being OUT there more, but you know RIGHT AWAY if there is chemistry. Trying to determine this online in advance, sorry to say, is a bit of a myth. For me anyways.

Site is Four Stars.
Online Dating is ONE STAR.

Don't blame POF for human nature. ;)

Why are there so many low life females, particularly Black Women that live in slums pretending to be someone Plenty of Fish are not? These mentally challenged, child-like 'females' are looking for movie star salaries from gentlemen in real life that they'd never even have the 'bra' to speak to.

Well here goes. I held a conversation with one female in my same age group. After some really good chat conversation online for about 2 weeks, we decided to exchange numbers and talk. After the 3rd conversation, she told me about having a rough day and it was all due to some white guy she chatted with online who wanted sex. The man and her actually had exchanged numbers, but now she was threatening to get her brothers and her son to kill the man! I had to excuse myself from the conversation, because I was driving and had my cousin with me and he heard it all. He was genuinely concerned about my safety. I excused it down the road as her having a bad day after being disrespected.

Well, we finally hooked up for a movie and a dinner. My treat. Now I will be honest and admit, I lied to her about my vehicle. I did this because I did not want to reveal my high end vehicle and go through the common chatter I have experienced in the past with other POF Black Females, calling themselves "sizing me up." I reside in Arlington, VA and she resides in Baltimore and I had do issue driving up. I honestly thought that going outside of the Washington DC Air Heads would be a far cry better. Plus, the female and I both originated from Queens NY. We had some really good conversations about growing up in NYC. I AM ONLY only interested in ALL Natural women, period. All the fake-up, tattoo's, weaves, wigs, and rainbow hair colors are just not for me. I also have a preference against scantily clad women in public. I was raised up with specific morals and expectations of what a good woman is, and I do not stray from my preferences. I do not club, drug, or drink. All these things we shared in common right down to diet and smoothies each morning.

So, I am on my way to the residence and I had used Google Earth to visualize where I was going. Coming from NYC, she could have at least warned me about the neighborhood I was driving into. Upon exiting the highway ramp to the main avenue, there are police lights and ambulance lights because 2 people have been shot. It's not a police crime scene so I had to detour back to the highway, go up one exit and let my navigation direct me to the residence. I could still see the lights as I turned into her housing complex. I pulled into a visitor parking space instead of where she suggested and removed my side arm from my waist holster. Now I am thinking about my cousin and his advice to leave that chick alone. I called her and let her know I was out front. When I saw what resembled her photo, I waved her to my vehicle. She wanted to know why I didn't tell her the type of vehicle I owned, as if I was trying to be sneaky. I honestly told her, I was looking out for my own; but why didn't you let me know about the type neighborhood I'd be driving into? She said, it's not that bad on her block even though she just heard about the shooting on the avenue. Yeah, I saw it too and had to detour up an exit because I didn't want to be lost on the side streets.

Of course, she had posted old pictures of a younger self, but kept touching my face saying how I looked totally different in person and how handsome I am. She was all natural, but definitely not dressed in any civil manner for a first date/meet & greet. The restaurant we'd decided was a little drive, so we got to talk and enjoy my music selections and the FEMALE got hot! She exclaimed how my 'music' is making her want to give me some. Whoa! She said her son had some really good Kush and she had a little before I came. I'm not an advocate against marijuana, based on my personal views, but some things are best kept to yourself! So we ate, and i will admit, I was totally into the conversation. Aside her little mini-skirt dress she claimed she wore for me so i can see 'dah' legs, I did find her attractive and at the least genuine in her views. However, at the theater, once seated and the lights went down, she wanted to cuddle up because her legs were now cold. I was fine with that and she was a small petite woman as well. So I have her all wrapped up and warm. I'll admit, it definitely felt good, but I'll never understand how she knew I was aroused. Her hand went right down there and she looked at me and smiled. I was so busted and embarrassed at the same time. She said, I knew you was feeling me when your body got me so warm. All I could say was, true.

Now it's time to drive her home, so I'm cool now. I had to change up my oldies but goodies movie selection to try and stop her from messing in my private part while I'm driving on the highway. Once we arrived at her residence, we sat and chatted for a few and she let me know how she totally enjoyed the first date, THE last is all I'm saying in my head. Then she reminded me about her headboard on her bed and how I (Mr Big Mouth Gentleman) had said, if I make her way, I'd fix it for her. So I had to go into her residence, although I was making excuses NOT to go in before she mentioned the headboard and my promise. So in the idiot (me) goes. Well... her Brother and her Son both live in the living room of her 2 bedrm apt. And these losers are laid out sleeping, snoring, and stinking up the place. Her 12yr old daughter is sleep in her bedroom. I asked to use the restroom, and let me say, that sealed the deal! Lights on and roaches scattered! I took some toilet paper to lift the seat so I could relieve myself, because the men there obviously urinate on the seat. NASTY! You have never seen a man fix a head board faster than me. I did not want tea, coffee, gold, diamonds, or to sit on her bed, I just wanted to get in my car and go!

I hugged her goodbye and she planted a kiss on my lips!? WTH! At least she didn't try to stick her tongue anywhere! I got in my car and I never answered another call from that woman. Eventually the voice messages became hostile and I became all types of Uncle Toms, Sellout Black Man, and Homosexual that thinks I'm better than most blacks. I closed my POF page along with my telephone number. So thank you POF. I will not even begin to mention my crazy stories with the DC Metro 'females.'

Signed, A Black man

I have been a user of this website for over 5 years. 5 years ago I met someone and stayed in a relationship with them for over 4 years however I left my account active stating I was in a relationship and now just looking for friends.

Having split recently with my ex girlfriend I decided to change my account status and started talking to people once again. However after a short while I was deleted, with no reason and no notification.

I have since signed up numerous times to the website as I felt this may have just been in error however this does not seem to be the case as the website continued to delete my account. I contact POF about this on numerous occasions with very minimal response. The only time their reply felt positive was when Plenty of Fish said I should be able to sign up again as the issue has been fixed, however when I did, with 4 hours I was deleted again.

I signed up one last time after staying off the site for about a month, this time I had more success. I spent 6 days signed up before it randomly deleted me again. I find this system to be extremely rude to not only me but to the people who I was talking to as I can no longer continue the conversations with them.

I would like to also say that the support I have received from POF CSR in the recent weeks has been appalling and my queries have not been returned and my issues are unresolved.

I find it also very Ironic that the system deletes genuine people who are single and want to meet other people, however it does not investigate or deal with accounts of people who are currently in a relationship and are falsifying this information on their profiles by stating they are single and still looking.

As a user of the website for over 5 years, I am shocked and appalled that they deal with their users in this way and the reviews on various websites concur with my opinion as there are many other people who stress the same feelings as I do.

5 years ago this website seemed to care for it's users and used to be helpful in assisting people to find friendships and relationships with people who otherwise would possibly never meet. Now this website is sexist and has sheer disregard and disrespect for it's users.

I urge people that if they wish to find companionship, friendship, relationships or any other form of ship that they look elsewhere and not on this website because for Males, we are deleted without cause and are not respected as a user when speaking with their customer service team and Females who are signed up are harassed with sexual comments from some real and but primarily fake accounts.

Think carefully before you sign up to this website.

I completely understand how people can be swayed by liars who are looking for sex or to just flat out harm people.
I was swayed by a so-called undiscovered musician. I can't give his profile name, even though he's, hopefully, off the site. This guys' profile name is also the name of his band. Right off the bat, he's not very creative, as his band name was also his profile name and his given name. I'll refer to him as Jon the Musician. I didn't know how serious Jon the Musician was about his "musical career" until I met him. His profile photos were of him working on homes. He claimed he was a home remodeler. He is really an independent handy man. What he told me, during a brief moment of lucidity, was that he had a brother who owned apartment buildings and that he was a handy-man for those buildings. So, he quickly tipped me off that he was "stretching the truth". I didn't know how seriously unstable this man was until we were served our food at a nearby restaurant and bar I chose to eat at because it was near my home. I knew my neighborhood well enough to hide after the lunch if I needed to. I walked a different route home after I had lunch with Jon the Musician.
Jon the Musician lied about everything. I believe he tweaked his profile after he saw mine to make himself look more appealing to me. I only date men who have the same interests as I do. Healthy living, running, outdoor exercise, weekend trail runs. Jon the Musician had the same information in his profile. I have a bachelors' degree, I like to read, I consider my local library the place to be for mental exercise and entertainment. He had similar information in his profile: He has a bachelors' degree, he enjoyed reading, he was ambitious, he liked outdoor exercise. The reality was Jon the Musician was none of those things. We wrote to each other a few times. His responses came back a day or two later, but well written. Looking back, I think he had help writing his responses. When I met him face to face, he was full of double negatives, his enunciation and pronunciation was off. I knew right off the bat that this was the first and last date with Jon the Musician. He claimed he was a runner, but he also stated that he ran in Vans (shoes) and blue jeans. He didn't know the distance of a 5K. His profile claimed he had a bachelor's. He claimed, right in front of me, that he has an associates' from a university. He completely changed his education right in front of me. I was dumbstruck. I felt stupid that I was being actively duped.
One thing that really disturbed me was he looked really sick in person.
I didn't realize this until he took his coat off. I noticed he looked unusually skinny for someone who was in their mid-40's. The skin on his arms looked kind of dirty and his face looked like he had severe acne issues. He had a five o'clock shadow that seemed to be worn by him to cover his skin. He constantly scratched his face. The only other person I dated who was very thin was someone who suffered from an intestinal syndrome. He took off his glasses and proclaimed that he bought them at Walmart because his eyesight is failing. I asked him if he went to an eye doctor. His answer was "No". I realized that this guy may not have been to a doctor in a while. Who knows if he's ever been tested for STIs, or STDs.
The conversation we had was just bizarre. I think he wanted me to think he was cool. And that he was someone who was giving me this incredible opportunity to meet him. He talked about his music endlessly. It's good to have a hobby, but not an obsession. His talk of being an undiscovered musician sounded like an obsession. His sentences were peppered with the phrase "rock and roll". He asked me childish questions, such as: "What's your favorite color?" I started to think this guy has some problems that needed to be addressed. The thought running through my mind was, this guy seems to be mentally unwell. He appeared functional, but he might need additional help. I felt like he was treating POF like a pick up site. He was looking for sex. The lunch date was just part of the procedure for him.
Once the date had ended, we walked outdoors together. The first question out of his mouth was: "Do you want to hang out?" I made an excuse to go back home. Later, he texted me: "Good luck on your future." That was an indication to me that he was looking for sex.
This guy tweaked his profile just enough to get someone he wanted to have sex with to become interested in him. Even if the person he was aiming for was really looking for a person to date long term and marry.
Serious thoughts on online dating because of Jon the Musician. It was brought to my attention by a friend that the reality of online dating is: You don't know how many profiles the person has. You don't know if the person has a felony. You don't know if the person has a job or a home to live. You don't know if the person is treating online dating sites as free sex sites. You don't know if the person online has an infection. The biggest realization is: You don't know the true intention of the person on the dating site until Plenty of Fish start to trust you and actually tell the truth.

I signed up and was underwhelmed at the standard of the women and overwhelmed by. How bitter and angry Plenty of Fish all are. It's a reflection of society as a whole they're all thinking they're entitled to a hot guy when in reality they're the leftovers

Very ordinary looking is an understatement. I immediately thought these are the women that can't find a man in the real world. Vast majority are either overweight or unattractive or lack social skills, most tick all 3 boxes

A lot are divorced which also means their best days are long gone but most of them won't ever have best days to worry about them going

You would think being so plain they would be down to earth and just happy for any attention but quite the opposite. The fatter and plainer they were the more anger and attitude they had in their bio. "I want this I want that, don't message me if you're this or that and if you only message hello I'll ignore you". Seriously? How can they behave in this way? Are men that really desperate that these women actually get messages? I would LOVE to see them try all this sass attitude in the real world they would get laughed out the bar. But I guess that's why they're single and online in their own little bubble looking for Prince Charming. Not gonna happen

They also love to whine in their profile, who wants to see that? Surely it's meant to be selling yourself and telling others what you can offer? Not complaining all men are pigs and if they do mention their hobbies they put "going out staying in and drinking" which is generic bs

I didn't see any friendly happy profiles from decent women, they all had issues of some kind.

Alot of them just seem to be attention seeking. They put photos up in their bikinis and suchlike and then complain they're getting rude messages but what you expect?

They all want some tall attractive guy with a six pack and nice teeth but offer nothing in return, what could go wrong?

It's a bunch of mostly unattractive women lacking class or social skills looking for a stunning guy to date. In what universe is that going to happen?

Let's be honest if it wasn't for online dating the only guys these women would ever be near would be their brothers
Now thanks to the internet they all think they are princesses and regardless of how plain overweight and trashy they are, they are gonna stay on POF until they get their Prince which will be never

I deleted my profile and left them to it. My guess they'll be on there still in 10 years as they're all undateable

My buddy has a point. All the decent women are either spoken for or having fun the rest are bitter angry and deluded on POF

1 star and that's being generous